MARRIAGE HAPPINESS- A VIEW

Marriage happiness- a view

 1 All the survey are conditional and may not reflect the true state of affairs of each individual, except it serves as a guideline or base for understanding and thinking. It’s a needed devil.
2 Marriage is one part of life and if there are "N" parts, "N-1" part may not uproot the life or the living. And at the same time That "1" which is marriage, keeps men and women tied to the pole for limited gracing, so as to raise their standard in notable fields, without being a jumping Jack. J J has to face all the negative consequences in the long run. On the contrary concentrated, double-folded -sacrificial efforts takes one above the clouds, where the beaming success are shared. Hence again it’s a necessary devil.
3 As there is nothing called success or failure in life so too there is none in marriage too. They are all in mind. Out of control or lose my control bring about the emotional impacts of pain and pleasure or success or failure. That’s all. It’s easy to say than done. Then how to know about it? Go back to earlier days. Did you not have the gripping fear exam failure day in and day out? Now when you think about it do you get the same feeling as on that day? Never. It were your thinking thro your heart and mind fed you the feeling because you wanted it. On the contrary think of another who was never bothered about the failure because he had a back up? Same situations -similar action and the same mind. Hence concentration and sacrifice decode the mind and fears of hefty consequenes shake the life. Then its in you to keep straight and is possible as the mind of the silver spoon boy. Back up is with you and you have to find it.
4 Then coming to marriage, it’s not an agreement or regd deed. As house construction depends on the type of soil, the character, so too the married life depends on the basic qualities of creation. Man is a man and a woman is a woman. I am not going to think about here, exceptions than rules. Errors are seen but rules can’t turn as exceptions because there are no boundaries. As I said earlier, two individuals join a relationship where both have to shed greater individualities and retain the effective ,non-hurt Individuality to make marriage a wonderful operation.
5 Basic sacrifice is ego. It’s impossible. It’s not easy. However have you ever noticed that 9 out of 10 times, men pick up fight at the drop of a hat while women even with the black belt avoids unless finally forced. Women are created with that kind of hidden ego while men are different. Similarly every character is designed. However today men are tending to take the women DNA in their constitution while the reverse is happening in women. The result ---unhappiness, eruption of ego. Breaks etc. Who is to blame? When its understood, skirmishes could be there but effective discipline to the role assumed shall sustain the oxygen-life. It’s simple but remember who has to change and never raise the wrong DNA

6 Our concept of sanathana dharma, Tirukkural and all scriptures attribute the DNA to
KARMA which alone would explain every situation of life. Thank you.

After drafting this I saw in my email from my friend the following Incident narrated, which is not only center of life but also, exposed the real ,virtual character of a woman created, real marriage value, character of a man, the reality of the life, and the empathy hard to come by. Let me share.

Breakfast at McDonald's

This is a good story and is true, please read it all the way through until the end!
I am a mother of three (ages 14, 12, 3) and have recently completed my college degree.
The last class I had to take was Sociology.
The teacher was absolutely inspiring with the qualities that I wish every human being had been graced with.
Her last project of the term was called, 'Smile.'
The class was asked to go out and smile at three people and document their reactions.
I am a very friendly person and always smile at everyone and say hello anyway. So, I thought this would be a piece of cake, Literally.
Soon after we were assigned the project, my husband, youngest son, and I went out to McDonald's one crisp March morning.
It was just our way of sharing special playtime with our son.
We were standing in line, waiting to be served, when all of a sudden e veryone around us began to back away, and then
Even my husband did.
I did not move an inch... An overwhelming feeling of panic welled up inside of me as I turned to see why they had moved.
As I turned around I smelled a horrible 'dirty body' smell, and there standing behind me were two poor homeless men.
As I looked down at the short gentleman, close to me, he was 'smiling'
His beautiful sky blue eyes were full of God's Light as he searched for acceptance....
He said, 'Good day' as he counted the few coins he had been clutching..
The second man fumbled with his hands as he stood behind his friend. I realized the second man was mentally challenged and the blue-eyed gentleman was his salvation.
I held my tears as I stood there with them.
The young lady at the counter asked him what they wanted.
He said, 'Coffee is all Miss' because that was all they could afford. (If they wanted to sit in the restaurant and warm up, they had to buy something. He just wanted to be warm).
Then I really felt it - the compulsion was so great I almost reached out and embraced the little man with the blue eyes..
That is when I noticed all eyes in the
Restaurant were set on me, judging
My every action.
I smiled and asked the young lady behind the counter to give me two more breakfast meals on a separate tray.
I then walked arou nd the corner to the table that the men had chosen as a resting spot. I put the tray on the table and laid my hand on the blue-eyed gentleman's cold hand.
He looked up at me, with tears in his eyes, and said, 'Thank you.'
I leaned over, began to pat his hand and said, 'I did not do this for you.. God is here working through me to give you hope.'
I started to cry as I walked away to join my husband and son.... When I sat down my husband smiled at me and said, 'That is why God gave you to me, Honey, to give me HOPE..'
We held hands for a moment and at that time, we knew that only because of the Grace that we had been given were we able to give.
We are not very religious goers, but we believe in GOD.
That day showed me the pure Light of God's - sweet love.
I returned to college, on the last evening of class, with this story in hand.
I turned in 'my project' and the instructor read it.
Then she looked up at me and said, 'Can I share this?'
I slowly nodded as she got the attention of the class.
She began to read and that is when I knew that we as human beings and being part of God share this need to heal people and to be healed.
In my own way I had touched the people at McDonald's, my son, the instructor, and ever soul that shared the classroom on the last night I spent as a college student.
I graduat ed with one of the biggest lessons I would ever learn:
UNCONDITIONAL ACCEPTANCE.
Much love and compassion is sent to each and every person who may read this and LEARN how to
LOVE PEOPLE AND USE THINGS – &
NOT LOVE THINGS AND USE PEOPLE.There is an Angel sent to watch over all of us.Some wise person wrote:Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart
To handle yourself, use your head...To handle others, use your heart.
God Gives every bird it 's food, but He does not throw it into its nest.
If this comes back to you, you know you have friends

'Never let your self-worth diminish
Prakash Iyer, MD, Kimberly-Clark Lever and Executive Coach shares two important management lessons he learnt from a
500-rupee note. Read on.
1. It happened some years ago but I can recall the evening like it happened just last week. I was in an audience listening to a motivational guru.
The speaker whipped out his wallet and pulled out a five hundred-rupee note. Holding it up, he asked, "Who wants this five hundred rupee note?"
Lots of hands went up. Including mine. A slow chorus began to build as people began to shout "Me!" "Me!" I began to wonder who the lucky one would be who the speaker would choose. And I also secretly wondered -- and I am sure others did too -- why he would simply give away five hundred rupees. Even as the shouts of "I want it" grew louder, I noticed a young woman running down the aisle. She ran up onto the stage, went up to the speaker, and grabbed the five hundred-rupee note from his hand. "Well done, young lady," said the speaker into the microphone. "Most of us just wait for good things to happen. That's of no use. You've got to make things happen." The speaker's words have stayed with me ever since.
'Simply thinking about doing something is of no use'
Our lives are like that. We all see opportunities around us. We all want the good things. But the problem is we don't take action.
We all want the five hundred rupee notes on offer. But we don't make the move. We look at it longingly and wonder who will be the lucky one -- instead of making our own luck. To be fair, some of us do think of running onto the stage and grabbing it. But we quickly hold ourselves back, because we worry about what people might think. Has it ever happened to you that you see a successful new product or a flourishing new business -- and remind yourself of how you had thought of that very idea many years ago? Well, that's not worth much. You may have had the idea first, but someone else did something about it -- so he'll reap the rewards. Next time you have an idea -- remember that simply thinking about doing something is of no use. Do something. Next time you see an opportunity -- think of the lady and the five hundred rupee note.

Remember, just wanting it is of little use. Get up, and do something about it. Don't worry about what other people might think. Take action.
2. Several years later, it was another day, another time.
And another motivational guru. As I watched him pull out a five hundred rupee note and hold it up for all to see, I thought I knew what he was going to do next. But he just asked a simple question. "How much is this worth?" "Five Hundred rupees!" the crowd yelled in unison. "Right," said the speaker. He then took the note and crumpled it into a ball and asked "How much is it worth now?" "Five Hundred rupees!" screamed the audience.
He then threw the note on the ground, stamped all over it and picked up the note and asked one more time: "And how much is it worth now?"
"Five Hundred rupees!" was the response. "I want you to remember this," said the speaker. "Just because someone crumples it, or stamps on it, the value of the note does not diminish. We should all be like the five hundred rupee note. In our lives, there will be times when we feel crushed, stamped over, beaten. But never let your self-worth diminish. Just because someone chooses to crush you -- that doesn't change your worth one bit! Don't allow your self-worth to diminish because someone says something nasty -- or does something dirty -- to you."
just take action to make it that way!
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MY THINKING


Yes the motto is right but never always. The episodes of 500 note is the beginning of the pep-up book which came to market long ago by whicj the authors found the weakness of human to become rich and became a billionaire.
If it’s Mr. Prosnen I would have thought he has to go a long way back. But Its Indian name and In India finer texts existed and exist since at least 5000 years. We always forget our kith and kin and nation and its assets but access the lesser value easily and adapt.
I can also tell a Rs 500 tale. A 500 note was lying on the pedestrian path. People walked thro regularly. Dome never looked at it. Some felt it’s a joke and passed away. Some had the desire to pick up but felt ashamed. Some attempted to pick it up; but since it flew some distance in the wind felt too tired to chase and left. Few tactful tried some methods to grab it without being seen by others and since it were not possible left the scene of action. One was a dare devil, so picked up the note come what may, but found some gel like strain on the back side , thought something bad and threw it away ,to rush to wash his hands. Finally there was one who saw the note, picked it up and placed inside the Hundial near a Pillaiyar temple, saying “it’s not mine and I shall get what I deserve thro my “Nishkamya karma” and left after washing the hands too. So it reached finally where it should go.
Our Scriptures whether Upanishads or Vedic phrases teach us how to live, manage and lead kindly light, however we don’t read these which is available here as well as in all the libraries of the foreign nations without read by any one.
TATA’s forefather started a steal plant without desire but for action for the nation and raised it up well; but present generations follow Drucker, and management Gurus to fight hard to sustain. (Incidentally Drucker Peter says there were no management till 1850 and I don’t know whether to cry or laugh).
Yes “hard work with concentration with the thinking” is needed to raise oneself but actions shall be performed without the greedy expectations, since all who entered the fray with such convictions, don’t succeed similarly, is the truth. For that matter, no one needs to remain inactive. Contribution of effective work is a must; desire for others asset is a taboo; accumulated assets are to be shared; so on, so forth and this had not made any one frustrated. The cause of suffering is ignored.
“Yamarkkum kudiyallom namani anjom” and “where the mind is without fear and head held high” are as good as equally “Kalam karudhi iruppar kalngadhu Gnalam karudhubhavar” & “ Thodangarka evvinaiyum ellarka mutrum idamkanda pinnal adhu”, viz “self-worth is subjective and shall be evaluated for that level of success. Exception never make a rule.

Why Indians have succeeded in countries ruled by whites but failed in their own?

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: Interesting analysis: Why Indians have succeeded in countries ruled by whites but failed in their own?
In this last Swami-nomics of the millennium, I would like to sum up our performance in the 20th century in one sentence: Indians have succeeded in countries ruled by whites, but failed in their own.

This outcome would have astonished leaders of our independence movement. They declared, Indians were kept down by white rule and could flourish only under self-rule. This seemed self-evident. The harsh reality today is that Indians are succeeding brilliantly in countries ruled by whites, but failing in India. They are flourishing in the USA and Britain.

But those that stay in India are pulled down by an outrageous system that fails to reward merit or talent, fails to allow people and businesses to grow, and keeps real power with netas, babus, and assorted manipulators. Once Indians go to white-ruled countries, they soar and conquer summits once occupied only by whites.

Rono Dutta has become head of United Airlines, the biggest airline in the world. Had he stayed in India, he would have no chance in Indian Airlines. Even if the top job there was given to him by some godfather, a myriad netas, babus and trade unionists would have ensured that he could never run it like United Airlines.

Rana Talwar has become head of Standard Chartered Bank Plc, one of the biggest multinational banks in Britain, while still in his 40s. Had he been in India, he would perhaps be a local manager in the State Bank, taking orders from babus to give loans to politically favored clients.

Rajat Gupta is head of Mckinsey, the biggest management consultancy firm in the world. He now advises the biggest multinationals on how to run their business. Had he remained in India he would probably be taking orders from some sethji with no qualification save that of being born in a rich family.

Lakhsmi Mittal has become the biggest steel baron in the world, with steel plants in the US, Kazakhstan, Germany, Mexico, Trinidad and Indonesia. India's socialist policies reserved the domestic steel industry for the public sector. So Lakhsmi Mittal went to Indonesia to run his family's first steel plant t here. Once freed from the shackles of India, he conquered the world.

Subhash Chandra of Zee TV has become a global media king, one of the few to beat Rupert Murdoch. He could never have risen had he been limited to India, which decreed a TV monopoly for Doordarshan. But technology came to his aid: satellite TV made it possible for him to target India from Hong Kong. Once he escaped Indian rules and soil, he soared.

You may not have heard of 48-year old Gururaj Deshpande. His communications company, Sycamore, is currently valued by the US stock market at over $30 billion, making him perhaps one of the richest Indians in the world. Had he remained in India, he would probably be a babu in the Department of Telecommunications.

Arun Netravali has become president of Bell Labs, one of the biggest research and development centers in the world with 30,000 inventions and several Nobel Prizes to its credit. Had he been in India, he would probably be struggling in the middle cadre of Indian Telephone Industries. Silicon Valley alone contains over one lac Indian millionaires.

Sabeer Bhatia invented Hotmail and sold it to Microsoft for $400 million. Victor Menezes is number two in Citibank, Shailesh Mehta is CEO of Providian, a top US financial services company. Also at or near the top are Rakesh Gangwal of US Air, Jamshed Wadia of Arthur Andersen, and Aman Mehta of Hong Kong & amp; Shanghai Banking Corp.

In Washington DC, the Indian CEO High Tech Council has no less than 200 members, all high tech-chiefs. While Indians have soared, India has stagnated. At independence India was the most advanced of all colonies, with the best prospects.

Today with a GNP per head of $370, it occupies a lowly 177th position among 209 countries of the world. But poverty is by no means the only or main problem. India ranks near the bottom in the UNDP's Human Development Index, but high up in Transparency International's Corruption Index.

The neta-babu raj brought in by socialist policies is only one reason for India's failure. The more sordid reason is the rule-based society we inherited from the British Raj is today in tatters. Instead money, muscle and influence matter most.

At independence we were justly proud of our politicians. Today we regard them as scoundrels and criminals. They have created a jungle of laws in the holy name of socialism, and used these to line their pockets and create patronage networks. No influential crook suffers. They flourish unhindered because they have political links.

The sons of police officers believe they have a license to rape and kill (ask the Mattoo family). Talent cannot take you far amidst such rank misgovernance. We are reverting to our ancient feudal system where no rules applied to the powerful. The British Raj brought in abstract concepts of justice for all, equality before the law. These were maintained in the early years of independence. But fifty years later, citizens wail that India is a lawless land where no rules are obeyed.

I have heard of an IAS probationer at the Mussorie training academy pointing out that in India before the British came, making money and distributing favors to relatives was not considered a perversion of power, it was the very rationale of power.

A feudal official had a duty to enrich his family and caste. Then the British came and imposed a new ethical code on officials. But, he asked, why should we continue to choose British customs over desi ones now that we were independent?

The lack of transparent rules, properly enforced, is a major reason why talented Indians cannot rise in India. A second reason is the neta-babu raj, which remains intact despite supposed liberalization. But once talented Indians go to rule-based societies in the west, they take off. In those societies all people play by the same rules, all have freedom to innovate without being strangled by regulations.

This, then, is why Indians succeed in countries ruled by whites, and fail in their own. India was much better off under British rule. The indians are not fit to rule. It is the saddest story of the century.

Ravi Shankar Jayaram
Research associate
Council on Hemispheric Affairs
The Hague

PS: THIS, BELIEVE YOU ME, IS JUST 1/10TH OF the INDIANS SUCCESS

Thinking from k Rajaram I R S on this issue.
I am happy atleast there are a few who squeeze the brain for analysis and contribute to des carthe’s statement. Your observation is on a few and certain situations. Tiruvalluar a learned saiud that NADENBA NADA VALATHANA. Apart from your reason, the economic civilized peaceful, straight forward trend IN MAJORITY had to make one behave, apart from the Implementations of the law. True, Can we see beyond the tip of the ice berg?( continuing from your analysis which I am making a little wider.
1. If regression were the cause or the caste were the cause or state divisions or language were the causes ,( as in India and similar factors do exist in outside) for progress then Indians in all cross section prospered as NRI ,where failure is ignorable; even less intelligent in comparison had done it; at the same time, women had a total change of customs and cosmetics. So Frictional, fiduciary and fractional factors is not the cause of down syndrome in India or up syndrome in outside. It’s something beyond.
2. Its independence while dependant. Laws are perfect and enforced tightly and so a fear of behaviour lurk behind, as dependent, yet it shall not make one really dependent as abiding gives lot of Independence.
3. Good systematic management with reward and punishments. Bountiful rewards for hard work and extreme punishments viz lifeterm here is 14 yrs on record while…. Everyone knows.
4. Freedom to relax and choice for perfect turnout with independent planning. It’s not when,who,how to work as per ignorant bosses, but whether work done as discussed and planned as per schedule.
5. Time management.
6. Expandable views and direction in positions.
7. Easy environments and peaceful living
8. Hard work and hefty pocket, heavy tax yet controlled economy
9. Corruption @ the highest level but executives and secretaries are answerable even for a layman.
10. Perfect justice within a short time. There is no delayed justice as well as no slavery judges.
11. You can walk with the walking stick swinging yet the tip shall not touch the nose of the neighbor.
12. Equality among people in spite of divided religions and caste and colors of differentiation
13. Business community except the medical field are really controlled with buyers safety; and under “medicine” doctors are made for the society with work in hospitals where hospitals shoulder the responsibility and they are curbed from the shooting practice( doctors are responsible and Insurance check their work).
14. Legal measure is costlier but lawyers have responsibility for justice. They cant afford to mislead the Judge and the Justice as well as they are assigned social justice on their shoulders.
15. Chartered accountants (CPAs) cannot sign any paper without legal verifications and for failure with future punishment Professionals life will become miserable even if they are Realtants, unlike India.
16. Absence of “its not ny job” CULT.
17. Society will treat, less caliber ,procrastinaters,easy-goers, and anti-society elements, with countenance, legal measures and like 4 letter word.
18. Plenty and multi choice to buyers and no one can take ones money by pilfering but have to answer every question
19. Public can’t be insulted if even one internally feels so because of stringent laws. Discrimination is highly punishable crime.
20. Where the mind is without fear honesty paves the way for success.
21. Thank you. There is no wonder in the success of Indians, Koreans, and Chinese whoever it may be. Chillness in spine will push our country to the peak, nothing else. I remember vividly on the date of emergency declaration in India By IG, all my staffs who used to stray in around 11 & 12, for 10 office, were present both ladies and gents @ 9.30 fretting and fuming. THIS IS INDIA AND INDIANS HERE ARE MADE FOR THAT.

Pancha pondence

Pancha pondence

Received on email:
1 There is nothing Good or Bad, it is all about Choices ........ So choose wisely.
2 Don't believe all that you hear and don't say all that you think.
3 Being Happy is not a matter of destiny. It is a matter of options.
4 Integrity begins with a person being willing to be honest with himself.
5 Do not let the noise of Other's opinion drown out your inner voice
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Loud thinking of K Rajaram I R S

Is that correct or even self-motivational words?
1. Vedic scripture followed by Tiruvalluar sourced it in Karma theory and (tamil) Immaikkum enai marumaikkum thatham karumame kattalaikkal. The choice made as good turns ultimately bad choice and so wisdom does not help.
2. This is fair yet this will deprive one of discussing with elders for right directions. Also suppression of communications matter much. If what children speak is ignored then the developments are curbed. So too for elders. Experiences maketh a man.
3. Sure if agreed what applied in – 1- do apply here also. Contentment is happiness. Option may spread the wing. (Tamil) Kana mayilada kandirunda vaankozhi thanumadu vaga pavithu….results may occur. If options of happiness is triggered from the desire then the ballooning limitations may blow the whole life.
4. Sure No counter. But Integrity though is same the action may differ from integrated situations. In Politics Integrity is giving up a village for the sake of population. In war integrity is diplomatic war. For a drug peddler it is protecting the honor of the group and die together. So the best definition given from Veda and from Tamil Tirukkural, “THAN NENJU ARIVADU POYYATRKKA, POITHAPIN THAN NENJE THANNAI CHUDUM”—Their the word Honest to oneself is correct subject to avoiding ULAGAM PAZHITHADU.
5. Yes it’s true partly and for some Nil. The truth is “ enni thuniga, …. thunidhapin ennuam enbadhu izhukku”. Epporul yar yar vaikketpinum apporul mei pporul kanbadu arivu”. Hence even for people beyond comprehension opinions are must. May ne one can drown or analyse and come over subject to his knowledge. However individual ego may bring disrepute and all opinions are for finding the truth only-- hence it is essential to gather the opinions. . There is a greater joke! All who don’t want o listen to others, go and fall at gods men so called feet without even a second thought and nod as if he is a greater guru!.
6. Anyway western thoughts are sweet coated pills with intent to hypnotize to encase. Eastern words have meaning in depth, yet not known to many.
7. SENSE WITHOUT INDEPENDENT EGO IS DEPENDENT LIKE, BUT CREATE A SENSE OF FULFILMENT, WHILE THE INDEPENDENT EGO WITHOUT SENSE IS NON-SENSE, SENSED FINALLY WHEN STRETCH TO THE WALL. “ ADAKKAM AMARURL UYKKUM, ADANGAMAI AARIRUK OOYTHUVIDUM.”
8. Thank you k Rajaram I R S

12th Feb 2012, Neeya Naana vijay TV

Yesterday 12th Feb 2012, Neeya Naana vijay TV program lead me to think where the Tamilnadu, India is progressing.
Women demand their own way or calling it as equality of home chores sharing including Baby raising; on the contrary , women prefer only to husband share but not male children cooking etc, funny. It also reflected the liking as well as bending to husband command to save the family life. Bundle of contradictions.

OK
Why Judges made some mumbo-jumbo words as if Kamal hassen is speaking!
Men are dunce as usual caught between reality of nature and pretending one to be. Man is bold creature who has to protect the family with courage and love with the balanced mind. Family is not as defined in USA but as in India. At the same time he has to have the boldness to declare whosoever he/she may be , that his wife's rights shall be protected as long as she is genuine.There is a difference between man and woman undoudedly. If she crosses the threshold of womanhood she will become a maglomania.
At the same time , she cannot be continuosly insulted and beyond tolerance ,when she,has to take the cudjel to establish the human rights violations. A woman shall draw this line with hardcore quality of patience to see whether any external elements are playing the cards or husband is ignorant but good.
I think valluar calls this as "thinmai" and "karpu"as one wife one husband relation if possible till death separate them. When an elderely speak as non-interference in Gay and lesbian relationship, which is not "mangalam" and not a relationship of health and for proper posterity, and yield to HIV etc, its a psychic problem and society shall take care.
Youth of today cause anxiety, men as coward and women as capricious, except some minority.

Neeya-Naana, Vijay TV Channel dated 29th Jan 2012

Yesterday there was a peculiar topic in Neeya-Naana, Vijay TV Channel as usual making India for another downfall. As Gopi said that even change will undergo change, yet changes are positive progress and not negation inducing down fall of civilizations.
This was regarding the food taste and healthy preparation at the kitchen by women and complaint of men. Basically, cooking is the wealth of women as no one need to teach swimming for fish. Cooking is an involvement, a concentration, rather a yoga. Women are stronger than men ,not by body weight ,as strength is wrongly misunderstood. Its mind game. Generally women were good at it once totally. The downfall started from 1960. Greed is another asset of women which they term as "possessive". The "good possessive" changed to "worse greed" as time passed. That is why now a days you see women of body strength rather than the mental one. The mistake ,rather the error ,started then from the mothers of the current women. There was another greed from men side which also started in the current generation. Money ,quick money by whatever means. There shall always be a justification for such statements. That is price index!.
Can anyone induce the reason for the increasing price structure? Unnecessary money flow in the market. Only when the money is unaccountable (mean both ways) wasteful expenditure occur. Pleasure has been misinterpreted. That’s why one sees the swapping and living together levels in India!. Erroneous food habit including quality, quantity, space, time induce the Rajo and Tamas Guna. It changes the mind from forbearance to steadfast ego. Its told in Bhagavat Gita. Men have lost their manliness and change has to be there for women. Hence the lethargy and least interest to learn, made the women folks to retard. Corporate culture and attractive advertisements hit the nail strong on the real life box.
There is no use raising arguments or claiming or wrongly understanding the equality. Nature is such that process of like and the culmination towards betterments were created in such a manner that brain of women is different from that of men. Mind creates the ego to fall apart, disfiguring the nature. Its as bad as losing the forests and cursing the rain for water. Have you noticed from time immemorial, (leave aside Sanskrit literatures, Natrinai , Kurunthogai etc teach these) agriculturists women folks forming the majority of the populations , were the real working women. The nature and cult of work may be different compared to today, yet the potentials are the same. They did all odd jobs, carried children, cooked and lead a rhythmic life as demanded then. Even five senses do it. But from sixties the education and job-culture gave the wrong directions.
Easy way of life cropped up. However there were at least the majority brought up children so well the current women folks do not have the difficulty. The mod culture t throw away money, for which the culprit is men changed the life style towards western moods. Those who were going thru the turn , never understood either of the Indian or western life. When the quantum of the gullible increase , the low percentage but well exposed western culture came to exist without the the mind to question, for which act the men are reason. Majority of the western house hold even today cook, bring up children with the pattern of love and affection. In the western cult the mod women whose "q" our people take are addressed as "B--------(5 letter word). I heard in a mall i the walkie talkie calling an employee by that word and the lady cursing the manager moving towards his cabin. Thro out the world the respect for ladies are high standard and the women are women whatever country they belong to. Indian women may not be rich once but were rich in respect they received. But today, it could be the western mod women.
Hence women today are only feigning to be weak in mind because men encourage them to do so. Y bringing in the original strength women have the capacity to go back to reduce the diverse rates and if it’s not done cooking may become the cause of losing the territory and the fall could be stronger than imagined, since no woman would take it easy if discarded by her own children, which pride make her a woman. It shall happen sooner than conceived. It should be remembered that all pep up book writers earn thro that book and by the advices they contain. So too women liberators may talk tall for their development yet behaving like women, but the damages created shall be as that of advertisements of corporate today.
It’s a great idea to have a common kitchen .So too will it not be great to have a common women folks for their freedom and for that act alone for both women and men? Who knows Reliance may bring in and we shall accept them. History repeats itself. (30th Jan 2012).

I THINK THEREFORE I AM

I THINK THEREFORE I AM 1
This openning material I liked from the blog and on that basis I express my views on general and special paths of Neey Naana of Mr Gopinath:
I’m neither spiritual nor religious: Gobinath

Understanding of god in the words of Mr C G as seen in the blog Understand yourself well and then you will understand the rest. Certainly, god never helps those who are lazy and do not believe in the maxim, ‘work is worship’. One cannot rule out the role of destiny in his life. Some call it as ‘luck’ and the others name it as ‘god’s grace’. One should sincerely work towards one’s goal without any expectation. If one makes the sincere effort, then that itself would pay the result to him. It has been reiterated as, Deivatthaal aagathenum muyarchi mei varuttha kuli tharum by Tiruvalluvar.
Spiritual beliefs
I’m neither spiritual nor religious. One is not happy with what he has and always feels that others are lucky and better off. And that’s because of his mind which shows he hasn’t understood life in a proper way. Spiritual beliefs are to be integrated with emotional relationships.
This has helped me to experience life as a journey of growth and let go off fear. When someone says, ‘You are doing a good job’, I feel happy and great. The set of Neeya Naana, my training academy, Taalkshop, and my home are close to my heart.
Meditation and awakening
Meditation is an exercise which you give to your conscience to make it active. Awakening makes you to know if you’re a good person or not. It’s a bliss to realise awakening.
(C Gobinath hosts a popular show, Neeya Naana, on Vijay TV)
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My observations dated 16th Jan 2012.

Gopinath is striving to rise up with varied strategies and good luck. However what’s being done by him is a JERRY FINGER SHOW AS in USA TELEVISION. Of course he has a director and producer and TV who shall earn by hook or crook and CG is helpless. The show shall have the fine thinkers with knowledge and presentation; it happened with me is not welcome.; Judges should analyze thread bear which require higher caliber than the participants..
Bookish burping and credibility lacking talkers without basis mislead the mass; after all the judges like Dr.S if I were there would show her base; she is pedagogue but not an analyzer; she has bias and cannot be a fine psycho analyst; people who always talk Tamil, Tamil culture, tamizhinam etc are absolute hypocrites as well as plotters against the nation; if you say Tamil, what kind of Tamil?' hut language?; Coimbatore?; kamba Ramayana?; karunanidhi?; ministers of TamilNadu?; if Tamil differs so much where the Tamil culture and Inam? IS Gurubak Singh different from venkataraman from perachi from bala nair?
Hence there shall be a base structure, analysis, data management, limitations, and freedom of speech, unedited versions and center point, relevant to the nature of the country, while choosing a topic. It requires lot of research and balanced mind. We don’t have it hence Jerry finger show. It kindles the relationships without apathy. When “why men don’t want to marry the city girl “is a topic, there is no other way than to listen, to conduct question of women. One cannot shout out by asking “do you have mother sister” etc. Even CG has all of them. Will someone look at askance when his woman has kooda -natpu? Will CG declare that “what right man has, women also have”-on this friendship?
Periyar talked tall but Lady Nagammai was wearing only saree and that man should have insisted on liberty to wear something else---any society is based on Man only-that’s nature. In nature woman has the choice of sex is only wrt lions and animals----not human.
The westerners has no unruly elements as described in shows as if westerners are always endowed only with the MOD culture, where men and women, flout modesty . NO. You can see the majority living honorably like Indians. Their value of life is different including sex, and they focus with the progress. They have a separate word called FAMILY because they love it and work towards it. . As a matter of fact the highest HIV is in Africa and India (Asia).
That kind of life value is in Kerala. So never expose ignorance with the authority so called of certain panelists.Mr. C n writes for money or else will he get deployed in ones service and write and earn against him also?Do you mean to say he does not know to distinguish. Let him do his job and never make that kind as panelists. When a mother wanted to stop the sugar eating of her son and came to Ramakrishna Paramahamsar, he took time before advising or preaching to that son, in order to qualify by himself. So “whichever way you wish I can talk” cannot be panelists but patti mantra pechaalar.
His observation is absurd. Village women frowns against disrespect but she will never allow anyone to disrespect her husband even if he is weak in character; Why there are so many diverse cases in the city to day? Does abortion denote only immoral character? The percentage of 21 districts will only be higher than the city-naturally.
Somerset Maugham said that author shall not speak as characters but the best writers think the perfect character speaking as they are. Let there be better style of CG; I am sorry I said “mere CG” and not Mr CG because 20 or 25 year girl called him so and it was accepted by him. In India when the 1-800 call is answered (especially cards)- just born kid calls by singular name in India (even women are addressed only like that) but western culture uses the Mr. or Ms whenever addressed; whose culture is good? We take the waste and purchase wastes while forsaking the goodness of the apple.
Thank you .

I THINK THEREFORE I AM 2
Men in majority are incapable doing anything smart till 40 and later when they get the spark can’t do anything without women. I said Majority. Present youth prefer to be a appearance of velour outside and the glowing fear of failures. INSTEAD OF SEEING WRING TAMIL FILMS WHERE HEROES TREAT THESE KIDS AS CRAP OF WHICH THEY HAVE NO KNOWLEDGE, READ POSITIVE THINGING AND PROVE TO THE OTHER SEX THAT YOU ARE A NATURE'S CREATION AND NOT A STRAW. One who respects his mother shall respect the womanhood of nature's creation absolute; again here I am not talking about the women world crossing the limitations under the illusions.

I THINK THEREFORE I AM 3
A comment by some lady:

A commentator Reply in face book:
why xxxxxxx all u r quotes r for men. then listen to my quote"cook tasty food the same way for ur husband the same way u expect u r daughter in law shud cook for u r son". Howzatt
My comments:
I read the comments of xxxxxxx and what he meant as “men suffering under women” is subject to one preview & right track. Where the malaise lie(the problem of current day men suffocating against women especially as wife) .
All wives try to find their way thru stomach of the husbands only. However the defective tool is husbands. Today Husbands are carrier for wives and the youth had become sub-serviette to them and not as friends. When a man is a man, a woman will be a woman. Men in 20s to 30s roam around on hotels and parties ,even when the woman use her discretion; then after spoiling the mental makeup of women , afterwards regret their woman can’t do this and that. H & W relation is never a master and servant one; neither it’s an irresponsible tour of the life as girl-friend. The maturity of the men is naturally accepted as the boss of the home and that tend the husbands to take her as his life partner. Do men folks do it? You want them to dress MOD and you feel later” it shall not be”. Married life is a long road to cherish for generations to come and not just fun.