HARUMAME KATTALAIKKAL-TIRUKKRAL
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I SAW IN THE NET AND MY VIEW AT THE END
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(SEEN)
Some tips for personal and professional life1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
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Six ways to make people like you.
1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person's name is to that person.
the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.
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Win people to your way of thinking
1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.
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A leader's job often includes changing your people's attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:
1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest. ----------------------------------------------------------------
(THE SEER)
AS LONG AS ALL THESE PRACTICES RESULTED IN, NEED-IN-RETURN,SAY MAINLY MONEY,POWER AND PRESTIGE,ALL THESE PRACTICES, WITH HYPOCRATICAL SMILE OUTSIDE AND TORN, BURNING SMELL INSIDE-ARE TERMED AS DIPLOMACY. DIPLOMATIC ATTRACTIONS ARE MUTUAL AND EACH WILL USE THE OTHER AS SCAPE GOAT. THE WINNER TAKES IT ALL WITH HIDDEN GLOATING AND THE MOJORITY ARE ALWAYS THE LOSERS, WHO CAN NEITHER SPIT NOR SWALLOW. FOR THIS ONLY THE PEOPLE GO AROUND IN MERRY AND THE ACCELERATIONS CRASH THEM IN DIFFERENT STYLES. ITS UNEQUIVOCAL PRINCIPLE THAT ONE WHO WROTE THE BOOK “HOW TO BECOME A MILLIONAIRE” ONLY HAS BECOME ONE AND ALL THE HOLDERS OF THE BOOK ARE STILL TRYING TO SCRAWL. WHEN ACTIONS ARE CARRIED OUT UNATTACHED, THERE ARE NO ULCERS OR DISRESPECTS OR FAILURES ,SINCE THERE ARE NIETHER WINNERS NOR LOSERS. BUT ITS UTOPIA IN THE MODERN WORLD. THIS IS CALLED MAYA. WHEN CHILDREN ARE PLAYING WITH TOYS THEY ATTACH KEENESS TO MAYA WITHOUT UNDERSTANDING,YET NEVER CRY FOR NOT HOLDING THE MAYA PERMANENTLY. WHEN ADULT SEE MEDIAS, THEY NEVER FEEL THEY ARE IN THE MIDST OF MAYA, BUT LIVE IN ANOTHER WORLD AND ASPIRE FOR THAT KIND OF LIFE AND DWELL DEEP IN MAYA TO ACHIEVE THEM. WHEN THIS CONCEPT IS UNDERSTOOD LIKE CHILD DOES, THE EARTH IS QUITE AND PEACEFUL WITH MUTUAL RESPECTABILITY.
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