WORDS OF EXPERIENCE PASSING TO GENERATIONS TO COME

WORDS OF EXPERIENCE PASSING TO GENERATIONS TO COME        

   It’s really a neat one (THOUGHTS OF SOURCE RECEIVED) but can make one doubt the approach to life of today. May be I added a few masala, which may be of worth or not, yet, some may consider as PROGRESSIVE LETTER FROM father to son:

Remember the following as you go through life 

1. Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother and I.

   KR: Its denying the expectations in day to day life, where few things are given only for return. Expectations and failure would hurt, but all are not the same and there are few who would reciprocate to multiply your joy and thus you can avoid the monsters and forget their non-gratitude. Of course in this world, PARENTS, RELATIONS, FRIENDS AND OTHERS ARE NOT IN THE SAME PLANE. There are two golden phrases  (1) kittathayin vettena mara—once u know u will not get it better pl forget (2) Madiyadhar talai vassal midikka vendam-----never step into the corridors of those who don’t respect you.

        To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really likes you. You have to be careful, don't hastily regard him as a real friend. 

         KR:  then totally its better to have a diplomatic relations only; then others will stay away from u once they understand and regret. Pl remember that ,when the index finger is pointing out, 3 other fingers are pointing at you also.

2. No one is indispensable, nothing in the world that you must possess. Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don't want you anymore, or when you lose what/who you love most. 

    KR; However when one cannot use discretion and differentiate the crossings in the long life of 60 years, but remain diplomatic, THEN AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL U WILL HAVE AN EXCLUSIVE LIFE ONCONNECTED TO THIS WORLD AND U SHALL REMAIN HAPPIER; ON THE CONTRARY IF U GET HURT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL, THEN U WASTED UR TIME ALL THESE YEARS. So,a life of losing some thing, which u can afford,  for the sake of  a little gain, is far better than the life of steadfast.

3. Life is short. When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life. 

       KR:  Also life is unpredictable and a mystery. Same approach and hard work would make one a cine star and another bus conductor only. Hence whether the life is wasted or not is not surely to know at the start. End justifies the means. Then the WASTE can be mitigated by, CONTROL OF THE DESIRE IN ALL ASPECTS, keeping the needs to a limit which is more than sufficient. May be it could be one’s treasure also.

4. Love is but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one's mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness. Don't over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don't over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love. 

   KR: This is called the status as in Bhagavat Gita, STHITHAPRAGNAN. Its not too easy to achieve but the control of the emotions and that of the reaction of the mind, can be practiced by trying to be sharp and cool as ARJUNA. Again the real love is omnipotent and expansive and the true love is reflected in all and it’s named differently with the different objects of love.

5. A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life. One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags! 

    KR:  EDUCATION EXPANDS YOUR MIND AND HEART AND THE DEDICATION TO WORK, FILLS THE POT YOU HAVE HELD.

6. I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, either would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor. 

      KR: Finance either way is secondary since the level is unknown. However the support is mutual and can never remain one way, lest conduct may lead one to the other side of life. The Tamil quote or poem received is reproduced for the effective functioning in life.

  அன்பு மகனுக்கு அப்பா எழுதுவது….!

 

அன்பு மகனுக்கு அப்பா எழுதுவது….!

வசதியாகத்தான் இருக்கிறது மகனே…

நீ கொண்டு வந்து சேர்த்த

முதியோர் இல்லம்

பொறுப்பாய் என்னை

ஒப்படைத்து விட்டு சலனமின்றி நீ

வெளியேறிய போது, முன்பு நானும்

இது போல் உன்னை

வகுப்பறையில் விட்டு விட்டு

என் முதுகுக்குப் பின்னால்

நீ கதறக் கதறக்

கண்ணீரை மறைத்தபடி

புறப்பட்ட காட்சி

ஞாபகத்தில் எழுகிறது!

 

முதல் தரமிக்க

இந்த இல்லத்தை

தேடித் திரிந்து

நீ தேர்ந்தெடுத்ததை அறிகையில்கூட

அன்று உனக்காக நானும்

பொருத்தமான பள்ளி

எதுவென்றே

ஓடி அலைந்ததை

ஒப்பீடு செய்கிறேன்!

 

இதுவரையில்

ஒருமுறையேனும்

என் முகம் பார்க்க

நீ வராமல் போனாலும்

என் பராமரிப்பிற்கான

மாதத் தொகையை

மறக்காமல்

அனுப்பி வைப்பதற்காக

மனம் மகிழ்ச்சியடைகிறது

நீ விடுதியில்

தங்கிப் படித்த காலத்தில்

உன்னைப் பார்க்க வேண்டும் என்ற

ஆவல் இருந்தாலும்

படிப்பை நினைத்து

உன்னை சந்திக்க மறுத்ததன்

எதிர்வினையே இதுவென்று

இப்போது அறிகிறேன்!

 

இளம் வயதினில்

நீ சிறுகச் சிறுக சேமித்த

அனுபவத்தை

என் முதுமைப் பருவத்தில்

மொத்தமாக எனக்கே

செலவு செய்கிறாய்

ஆயினும்…

உனக்கும் எனக்கும்

ஒரு சிறு வேறுபாடு

நான் கற்றுக்கொடுத்தேன்

உனக்கு…

வாழ்க்கை இதுதானென்று

நீ கற்றுக் கொடுக்கிறாய்

எனக்கு…

உறவுகள் இதுதானென்று!

7. You honour your words, but don't expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don't expect people to be good to you. If you don't understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles. 

      KR:  Be clever and never be stupid to commit the same error twice. Even when u remain without expectations, yet u will suffer.

8. I have bought lotteries for umpteen years, but I never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch! 

9. No matter how much time I have with you, let's treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life. 

The woods are lovely, dark, and deep,
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep.

Robert Frost, Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening
US poet (1874 - 1963) 

Your    Dad & Mom.12/10/12.