Girl - Mother - Grand Mother –
WAV!!! - Appreciate Her From a friend)
Tomorrow you may propose a working woman,
but you should marry with these facts
firmly grounded in your mind........
Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
who is earning almost as much as you do;
One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have
because she is as human as you are;
One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life
just like you or your Sister haven't,
as she was busy in studies and competing in a system
that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements.
One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters,
almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;
One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind
all that, her home, people who love her,
to adopt your home, your family, your ways
and even your family name,
ie: A tree getting transplanted in a new soil after two decades.
One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep
oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances,
environment and that kitchen
One, who is expected to make tea, first thing in the morning
and cook ood at the end of the day,
even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more,
and yet never ever expected to complain;
to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife,
even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are
as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and
knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding,
or if she learns faster than you;
One, who has her own set of friends, and
that includes boys and even men at her workplace too,
those, who she knows from school days and
yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners
to avoid your irrational jealousy,
unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;
Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can,
but won't, simply because you won't like it,
even though you say otherwise
One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines,
just like yours, are to be met;
One who is to bear your legacy -
enter the motherhood with all pains to make it gains
so that you can proclaim to the world as a proud father,its heritage,
And after sometime enter into grand parenthood too.!!
One, who is doing her level best and
wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success,
if you just help her some and trust her;
One, who just wants one thing from you,
as you are the only one she knows in your entire house -
Your unstinted support, Your sensitivities and most importantly -
Your understanding, or love, if you may call it.
But not many guys understand this......
Please appreciate "HER" ==========
OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN (myself)
Poet Subramanya Bharathi used a word which I had not seen anywhere viz “Pennil oru peezhaiyurukkudamma” Yes It is-
As women have the chores to perform as duties assigned to women, men have been assigned certain things to do. Women has to take care of her husband and the home in which others reside, preferably husband’s relations. On the contrary a good husband has to take care of his wife children and relatives, apart from securing the worldly wisdom thro non-chalant hard work which is more difficult than, as it would involve psychological clash, aberrations and diplomatic play. Wife plays the foot ball at home ground where winning or losing does not matter, yet it’s a game played. However men play in the open field and have to endure tough competition since so many plays the same style.
God created men and women, made for each other and no one on this earth is EQUAL in all respects. Equality is heartily given and reciprocated, but virtually, there is no equality. Equality is objective and better understanding of the mind keeps up the balance of the earth. Men and women have to respect each other. Even if women are asked to rest, they won’t as their nature and thought process is different. Women think thro the heart and men thro the mind. Women is emotional and men pragmatic. Given the circumstances, one cannot exist without the other and cannot exist individually, whatever their habits and education.
At the same time it has to be accepted that the women by nature have strong heart and willing to sustain and sacrifice to uplift her children which except “thayumanavar” style men (rarity), may find it difficult however god a man he may be. Her world is around her husband and children and for the sake of peace she would endure any extraneous torture, provided she can achieve. Now regarding working women of the present day, well, both have to share, yet fish learn to swim sooner or later, as that is its strength.
Only if men folk understand this and love them more, life is a blooming flower. Yet the same women have the capacity to far exceed neglecting the husband and the family when, women hood descends down to abysmal and world is in chaos. Women pay the price to cross the nature as well as men for allowing it to happen. Problem and the solution is one and the same person and choice is made to carry further. No doubt, women shall deserve the greatness and reciprocate the greatness in men.
Thank you K Rajaram IRS (Retd)